Telling the children that that Mom and Dad are getting divorced is tough to do. Sometimes anger, fear, or selfishness can cause a parent to make a bad decision in the way they inform the children of the impending separation. It’s important to put the needs of the children ahead of an individual parent’s need to tell his or her side to the children. In most circumstances, it’s best if both parents can sit down together with their children and explain the impending separation in a calm and reassuring manner. The below article from the Huffington Post provides good advice on how best to talk to children of different ages.
Once the painful decision to divorce has been made, telling the children is most likely the next most difficult step. As a matrimonial attorney, clients often ask me for help at this critical stage. The advice is different based upon the age of the children involved.