Problems Disciplining Your Children in a Divorce/

While this article from Psychology Today addresses the issue of disciplining children in general, it provides a good read  for parents having to address discipline issues  with children during the course of a divorce.  It is not unusual for children to attempt to manipulate both parents to get what they want and parents may have a harder time imposing discipline during a divorce.  This is because of a number of new factors recently inserted into the dynamic of the parent child relationship: feelings of guilt,  less time with the children, a custody fight, just to name a few.  This article is an interesting self-examination on discipline.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anxiety-zen/201701/open-letter-parents-struggling-discipline

Should I Change My Last Name?

I am often asked by women at the end of the case, “should I change my name?” My response is that “it is a personal decision.”  I then offer several reasons for and against a name change based on information relayed to me by former clients when they have wrestled with that issue.  This blog post presents a good discussion of the issue.

Should I Change My Last Name

What Not to Do When You Find Out Your Spouse is Cheating

What Not to Do When You Find Out Your Spouse is Cheating is a good article containing great advice and guidance for people who have discovered that their spouse is having an affair.  It is well worth the read.  However, one very important “don’t”  not included on the list is, don’t confront your cheating spouse with your suspicions if your spouse does not know that you know (or suspect) of the affair.  Why?  Because, if you confront your spouse prematurely, valuable evidence of the affair may disappear and you may ultimately be unable to prove your spouse’s adultery.  The best advice for anyone who knows or suspects that their spouse is cheating, is to consult an experienced family law attorney and come up with a plan rather than  just confronting a cheating spouse.

 

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

This is an outstanding article on how to co-parent with a narcissist. It’s also great advice for any parent trying to co-parent with a difficult ex.  It is essential set set boundaries and stick with them.  If your ex has any of the above characteristics, please take the time to read and implement this advice!

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

How to Tell the Children You’re Getting Divorced

Telling the children that that Mom and Dad are getting divorced is tough to do. Sometimes anger, fear, or selfishness can cause a parent to make a bad decision in the way they inform the children of the impending separation.  It’s important to put the needs of the children ahead of an individual parent’s need to tell his or her side to the children.  In most circumstances, it’s best if both parents can sit down together with their children and explain the impending separation in a calm and reassuring manner.  The below article from the Huffington Post provides good advice on how best to talk to children of different ages.

How to Tell the Children You’re Getting Divorced

10 Financial Mistakes to Avoid in Divorce

Great advice for every client to consider. Too often clients want to get through the divorce process spending as little money as possible to the neglect of their financial best interest. For example, some clients choose to agree on the value of real estate in order to save $350 to $500 on the cost of an appraisal which in all likelihood would result in a financial gain, for one party or the other, far in excess of the cost of the appraisal.

10 Financial Mistakes to Avoid in a Divorce